Dying Girl is Not Dying


I don’t know of how many of you will recall this, but when I gave out my last Pants Award, the recipient turned around and told me that I shouldn’t have criticised her site because she has terminal cancer. I’m not sure in what way the two are related — cancer doesn’t cause you to have a shite website — but the site was shortly deleted nonetheless. She then said (for some kind of dramatic effect I guess) I just told you I am going to die

Fast forward a while, to this month. I’d forgotten all about her. In theory, she should be dead by this point, really. I mean, I didn’t believe her for a second and it wouldn’t be the first time that someone online had made up bullshit to try and win sympathy, but one likes to err on the side of caution with these things, you know? Terminal cancer is after all is said and done, “terminal”. That means they’re going to die.

Lo, how surprised was I then, when someone pops a comment on the Pants entry to tell me that Ms. Amarilys is alive and well. In fact, her plurk even shows a consistent timeline of posting, apart from a short break of 4 days for “surgery”. Given that I was in hospital for 4 days under minor circumstances, I somehow doubt that her doctors managed to cure terminal cancer and have her out of hospital and ready to post again within that teeny tiny timespan.

Cancer: it’s a horrible disease. I’m glad that through so much campaigning and support from charities we have the kind of cure rates that we do. It’s not perfect, people are still dying, but I hope that some day this won’t be the case. Given that I was there to watch my Nan die of lung cancer when I was just 14… it sickens me that someone could be so screwed up in the head that they feel using terminal cancer is necessary… because they’re a little embarrassed about a FICTIONAL fucking award. Get a grip on reality for crying out loud.

Oh, and your website still sucks.

Jem Turner jem@jemjabella.co.uk +44(0)7521056376

49 comments so far

  1. Kristina said:
    On December 3, 2008 at 8:33 pm

    Put your hand up if you expected this.

    *raises hand*

  2. Stephanie said:
    On December 3, 2008 at 8:38 pm

    Lies are seriously hard to keep up with. And lies about cancer. How sad, that some people have come to that.

    People just don’t care anymore or something. See: Walmart employee trampled to death while people go get their new toys. Depressing.

  3. Vasili said:
    On December 3, 2008 at 8:45 pm

    I feel the need to shoot people if they think using cancer as an excuse is okay. Both my grandmothers had cancer and I am sickened now.

  4. Carly said:
    On December 3, 2008 at 8:53 pm

    I love (and cannot belive you missed) her latest blog entry on the first.


  5. Jem said:
    On December 3, 2008 at 8:58 pm

    I didn’t miss it, I just couldn’t express my exact feelings with regards to her hypocrisy in any way other than “LOL”, and that degrades the entry somewhat :P

  6. Jacky said:
    On December 3, 2008 at 9:01 pm

    Watching my grandfathers die from it and my grandmother fight it makes this all the more worse. I cannot believe people still have the gall to do such a thing. Cripes.

    I also skimmed her biography… and no mention of cancer. You’d think if it was important enough to tell a random stranger, she’d put it in her “life story”, eh?

    People suck.

  7. Vera said:
    On December 3, 2008 at 9:27 pm

    *is tearing up* This actually happened? Someone over 20, told you that she’s dying, as a comeback for your pants awards? LOOOL

    I’ve had relatives die of cancer, and I know it’s not a laughing matter, but seriously? “You evil bitch I’m going to die”? *is in shock*

  8. Clem said:
    On December 3, 2008 at 9:33 pm

    My grandma had cancer (it’s gone now), and it was so scary for everyone involved. It’s horrible to lie about it, and to use it as an excuse for having a bad website.

  9. Stephanie said:
    On December 3, 2008 at 9:58 pm

    You know, seriously, people are just freaking LAME.

  10. Nyx said:
    On December 3, 2008 at 10:02 pm

    LOL. Typical.

  11. Joe said:
    On December 3, 2008 at 10:28 pm

    What that fuck?

    A few years, I still would’ve found this disgusting, but I couldn’t relate to it in any way. But, my uncle died of cancer last year, and my Grandma recently recovered from breast cancer. So, now upon hearing this, I’m fucking outraged. How low can you possibly sink?

    And no, cancer certainly doesn’t cause you to have a shit website. It’d be like my excusing having a shit website on my diabetes. The only way that could possibly happen were if I were to go hypoglycaemic whilst in the middle of coding, and decided to be a complete fucking moron and continue, rather than going and getting something to eat.

    I am now of the opinion that this person is a bona fide fuckwit.

  12. Catherine said:
    On December 3, 2008 at 10:59 pm

    That is sick. And lame. And did I mention sick?

    I am resisting the urge to comment on her most recent post – the one about her hating liars.

  13. Catherine said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 12:09 am

    Looks like someone did call her on her stuff and linked back here. But she’s deleted it.

  14. Mimi said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 1:14 am

    I called this, too! I even said so in the pants entry. I want a cookie! If I ever had reason to feel sympathy for this person that sympathy has gone far, far away. My family is ridden with cancer, my mother is a Cancer Treatment nurse. She tells me these unimaginably sad stories and they break my heart.

    Then we have little Miss Over-Dramatic wannabe bitch (Yeah how cool, a cancer wannabe.) that flits around as if cancer were an awesome excuse for being an egotistical twat that finally was told she has a horrible website. I have seen her site and wanted oh-so-badly to say something, but I didn’t want to start the drama. Well mama, you started the drama by feigning cancer.

    I hope she feels really fucking cool now.

    Oh, and she hates liars.

    .. yeah.

  15. Renee said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 1:33 am

    That has got to be the epitome of lameness. If she’s willing to make up such a big lie in response to something so…unimportant in the greater scheme of things, I’d hate to know what else she lies about.

    It’s quite interesting how the latest post on her blog is so hypocritical. I’m very tempted to comment, but I’m sure it’ll be deleted…

  16. Wendy (worldangel) said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 1:36 am

    She shouldn’t have used cancer as an excuse. Terminal illness is not something to be quoted for fun.

    My guess is she is someone young and couldn’t think of a better excuse to use to cover herself up. Even the way she said it in the comment sounded like she treated it like something trivial.

  17. Catherine said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 1:42 am

    ^^ She’s 23, Wendy.

    Not that that helps.

  18. chanel said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 3:58 am

    Maybe she meant to say that her website has cancer and that’s why it looks terminally ill. :(

  19. Dustin said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 4:38 am

    Why are you so concerned with her website in the first place? People have to start somewhere when they get into a hobby, just like some choose to create a website. Sorry if this absolutely kills you but there are newbies to the internet. Although, her using the cancer excuse is just lame. Not to mention shes an adult and shouldn’t by relying on such things to get her out of embarrassment or problems.

  20. echo said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 5:06 am

    I once worked with a man who was feigning cancer. Lunatic con man that he was, as least his fraudulent claim afforded him compensation. Before the company discovered his scheme, he was receiving benefits and collecting a paycheck. I suppose the sympathy people gave him was a bonus… Or perhaps it was the other way around: He did it for the attention and the rest was icing on the cake.
    The point is, I’ve seen this before ā€” a crackpot lying about being terminally ill for personal gain of some sort ā€” so I’m disgusted, but not as dismayed as I should be.

    That chick needs mental help; I almost feel sorry for her. Almost.

  21. Brenda said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 6:22 am

    Using cancer as an excuse is just … ridiculously low.

    I hope she gets what she deserves – loads of backlash. (Which from what I see, is happening already.)

  22. Maria said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 7:37 am

    @Dustin, it’s not that we despise “newbies” in a sense. It’s that she had the audacity to market her “skills” that makes it quite laughable.

    However, lying about cancer is just plain sick. If I had less morals, I’d probably wish ill on her.

  23. Dustin said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 7:46 am

    @Maria, Oh is this the girl wanting to offer up her “mad skillz” for near a $300 rate? I remember her now. My bad :).

  24. Sarah said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 8:06 am

    I can’t say I’m surprised. What a sick individual she is.

  25. Regine said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 9:21 am

    You don’t kid with something like cancer or any other terminal gruesome illness. This person is sick, sick, sick and she said that because of a shitty website? You can’t get lower than that.

  26. sharon said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 12:57 pm

    WTF is wrong with people? I’m appalled that someone could sink so low just to gain, what? Sympathy? An apology? Unbelievable. She should be ashamed.

  27. Rise said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 4:45 pm

    What a moron. Morons piss me off. :( Argh.

  28. Cristina said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 5:12 pm

    Hey look, it’s the girl who cried, “Cancer!”

    My grandma died recently. It was due to her cancer coming back that she pulled her oxygen tube, causing brain damage, causing the plug to be pulled on her.

    Cancer is not your ‘get out of making shitty web pages f0 free’ card. The hell with that girl.

  29. Becky said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 6:47 pm

    I’m quite upset by this. I just got over my mum’s a lengthy battle with breast cancer (which no doubt will come back) and someone stoops this low?

  30. Cory said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 9:31 pm


    This is a side of you I though t I’d never see.

    I’m disappointed.

  31. Jem said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 9:42 pm

    You think I actually give a shit Cory?

    If me outing a lying bitch on my blog bothers you, perhaps you shouldn’t be reading it.

  32. Ambar said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 11:42 pm

    This made me lulz.

  33. Jessica said:
    On December 4, 2008 at 11:44 pm

    When you first wrote that pants awards entry I did feel bad for her in the way of ‘Oh my I know how bad cancer is’. My grandma died from cancer. She battled cancer all her life. It took a small piece of her breast cancer to break off & lodge in her brain & lung. My grandmas cancer had a nifty way of hiding as pnuemonia. CT scan after scan it was no where. Couldn’t figure out why she always had pnuemonia or migraines. 6 months before she died the cancer made itself obvious – at the stage 4 of the disease. I have also had melanoma. I have a disease that will never go away (lupus). This chick has pissed me off. If she really did have cancer you’d think she’d link to cancer research or some shit. Karma will get this girl and hopefully it will rip a huge chunk out of her ‘I am so happy now’ life.

    So now that I have been diagnosed with Lupus can I go make my site shittier? Please?

  34. Cory said:
    On December 5, 2008 at 1:08 am

    Perhaps I won’t return.

  35. chanel said:
    On December 5, 2008 at 1:25 am

    lol @ Cory saying “Perhaps I won’t return.”. But he will return just to see if anyone made a snide comment towards his, then he’s going to repond to them saying how much he “doesn’t care”. All while this is occurring, Jem is weeping because CORY won’t RETURN.

    Sadness everywhere.

  36. Mimi said:
    On December 5, 2008 at 2:04 am

    Who the fuck is Cory, anyway? Shouldn’t Cory also reprimand Amarilys for pretending to have cancer if he/she is so concerned with morals?

  37. Maria said:
    On December 5, 2008 at 5:36 am

    I don’t understand why some of you dislike Cory. I understand where he’s coming from; in a way, he expected something more from Jem and she failed to live up to his expectations. Simple as that. It doesn’t make him less of a person and that’s that. He doesn’t need to publicly reprimand Amarilys for her wrong doing; the rest of us have done enough.

  38. Mimi said:
    On December 5, 2008 at 8:32 am

    Maria, I never said I dislike Cory. Where did I say that? I just asked who the fuck he was. I also never said that he needed to reprimand liar girl, either. I said that if he was so concerned with morals that I believe the lesser of the two “evils” would be Jem posting this. Also, I did not say anything about him being “less of a person”. I don’t think you actually read my comment at all. :|

  39. Jem said:
    On December 5, 2008 at 9:08 am

    he expected something more from Jem and she failed to live up to his expectations.

    My heart bleeds, it really really does.

  40. Joe said:
    On December 5, 2008 at 11:25 am

    Okay, what? I’m confused.

    “This is a side of you I though t Iā€™d never see.”

    Yes, because calling out people who are disgusting enough to feign cancer just to get some sympathy is a really horrible thing to do, isn’t it?

    Shame on you, Jem!

  41. Cory said:
    On December 5, 2008 at 2:21 pm

    Okay, I think there was a miscommunication here.
    I wasn’t reading this for what I think Jem was trying to put across.
    See, what I thought was that Jem was basically insulting this girl for having cancer.
    I couldn’t understand why she would do that.
    I NOW SEE that through previous posts, and this one, it comes together as; this girl lied saying she had cancer when she didn’t.
    Okay, now that’s something that is much easier to understand why you would post about it.
    Sorry Jem.

    I do agree now that lying about having cancer just for sympathy is quite horrible.

  42. Liz said:
    On December 5, 2008 at 9:17 pm

    Someone dying from cancer isn’t a light thing and that she said it was terminal made it worse. The fact that she lied about this just to get attention/sympathy is horrible. If you’ve ever had someone you know die someway like this like I have it’s not a good experience. Not everyone is going to like your website it doesn’t matter if you have a terminal illness or not it’s a proven fact.

  43. Trish said:
    On December 6, 2008 at 1:25 pm

    Oh, wtf? I’m super retarded. I actually felt bad for her because my grandmother died of colon cancer when my mom was only 18, my aunt almost had lung cancer, and my mom came super close to having skin cancer. Terminal cancer means you’re going to die, but she’s talking about how she’s healed or something? Btw Jem: how do you find out all this stuff?

  44. tay said:
    On December 7, 2008 at 2:06 am

    Lieing about cancer is just horrible. I find that so insensitive to people who actually suffer from the disease.
    And being cured from a terminal illness, puh. If people could be cured, then it wouldn’t be called ‘terminal’.

  45. C. Hal said:
    On December 7, 2008 at 9:47 am

    I was a bit willing to give her the benefit of the doubt until I read the Plurk thingy (sorry :p not terribly familiar with that site.) Sick, copious amounts of fail.

    She wrote in her blog she went out and had all this food a week and a half after the surgery. Funny because I remember when my mom had her appendix removed, thanks to technology it was a short procedure and she went home that day, and couldn’t do the stuff the Digital Sugar girl did. lulz

  46. Zatanna said:
    On December 9, 2008 at 4:17 am

    Yeesh I also gave this girl the benefit of the doubt. My mother had breast cancer, thankfully she does not anymore so it is disgusting that’d she’d use such a thing as an excuse.

    However it seems she’s deleted her site, yet again! I wonder if she ended up getting a lot of comments about the cancer excuse?

  47. Nat Marie said:
    On December 9, 2008 at 4:09 pm

    Guilty consciences delete their sites, Zatanna.

    I…cannot believe that someone would stoop that low. My grandfather had cancer, and is still being treated for it so that it doesn’t come back. Even if I didn’t know anyone directly who had cancer, I’d still be disgusted. What makes it even worse is that this is a grown-ass WOMAN. She should know better. Joking about cancer is like joking about death. It’s not cool.

    I hope the heifer gets what’s coming to her.

  48. Nat Marie said:
    On December 9, 2008 at 4:10 pm

    By the way, she deleted her Plurk as well. -_-

  49. Jem said:
    On December 9, 2008 at 4:21 pm

    That’s ok, I took a screenshot. :)