There’s a thread on one of the forums I read, “Did you plan on being a natural parent?”
Hahaha, I don’t think anything could be further from the truth. I had two plans: 1) that I’d breastfeed, and 2) that I’d try for a ‘natural’ birth to decrease the risks of buggering up plan 1. (I ended up having pethidine, in case you don’t remember.) Aside from that, we bought a cotbed and mattress for nearly £200, a travel system (car seat and pram thingy) for £80, a bouncy chair, baby sleeping bag thing, blankets etc. Everything was going to be hunky dorey for my mainstream baby. You wouldn’t catch me putting a baby in my bed, I’d never spoil it with cuddles, pandering to her every whinge…
Except, babies have other ideas, and so do mummies when suddenly hormones are raging through their system and they’ve got a naked, purple baby lying on their tummy opening her eyes to the real world for the first time.
I don’t know if I’m classed as a natural parent as such, because I believe homeopathy is bollocks and I am pro-vaxx, but I think my ‘experience’ certainly reflects that it doesn’t matter how much planning you do, how much mental preparation, it means bugger all til you’re there and in the moment and getting on with things.
As it is, most of my parenting decisions are based on laziness (couldn’t be bothered to get out of bed, so co-slept; couldn’t be bothered to mush up food so do BLW; couldn’t be bothered to struggle with a bulky pushchair so use a wrap; couldn’t be bothered to settle Izz in cribs and chairs so keep her on/with me all the time — and I find out later on that these things hold similarities to attachment parenting) but it’s interesting to see how much they differ from what I’d had in mind all those months ago.
My cotbed makes a half decent dumping ground for books and spare pillows, and the buggy part of the pushchair might get the occasional use in the future. Maybe.
What have I learnt? Never say never…