Personal archive

Health, relationships and more besides. Read about my battles with PMDD, my mental health, surviving both childhood sexual abuse and a 12 years of emotional abuse as well personal projects and challenges, and anything vaguely Jem-related.

I chose to drink. It was rubbish.

In Personal

(I originally posted this on reddit, but want it recording here as part of my journey.) I had a drink on Saturday night. I made the active choice to have a drink, rather than caving to cravings or anything like that; it was one of… read full entry →

My PMDD is Under Control

In Personal, PMDD

For the uninitiated and new readers amongst you, PMDD is an extreme version of PMS/PMT. It can cause cyclical feelings of anxiety, depression, anger and even suicidal thoughts, as well as the physical symptoms typically associated with the menstrual cycle. It’s been over a year… read full entry →

Reflecting on a Rollercoaster Year

In Personal

I can’t really think of any other way of describing 2017? Starting the year with a massive unexpected tax bill (sound familiar?) was an uphill battle – a chain lift, dragging the rollercoaster car to the top of steep hill – following by rocketing at… read full entry →

Just be chill about it

In Personal

Gaz asked me one Saturday a few weeks back — as I ordered a vodka cocktail — whether or not I’d given up on the ‘not drinking’ thing. A fair question, given the ‘ordering a cocktail’ thing. Sobriety was going really, really well. I had… read full entry →

Sex, Sexuality and Consent

In Personal, Relationships

When I was, ooh… 17 years old (give or take) I wrote a “dirty” poem for the man I thought I was in love with. I don’t remember the words, but I remember it was a little bit rude, a little bit “naughty”. That poem… read full entry →

Baring All

In Personal

I plonked my wibbly wobbly stretch-marked belly¬†(maybe NSFW, features underboob) on Instagram last night. It came off the back of a conversation with a gorgeous, sexy friend who mentioned that she had issues with her tummy. It’s a common one, especially for mums. I spent… read full entry →

Tribute (Robert Addison, July 1981 – July 2017)

In Personal

A tribute to Robert ‘Bobby’ Addison, as read out at his service today. It would be… incongruous to stand here and tell you all what an angelic life Bobby led. He was almost as well known by the local police as he was by us… read full entry →

Death, Depression and Drink

In Personal

Content warning: suicide, mental health, addiction On Wednesday I sat down and mentally compiled a tribute to my brother, whilst assembling an IKEA table. There’s something strangely therapeutic about putting flat-pack furniture together (at least when I’m doing it by myself). My brother, Robert ‘Bobby’… read full entry →

Radical Self Love

In Fitness, Personal

I posted this picture to instagram at the end of May: View this post on Instagram A post shared by Jem 'jemjabella' Turner (@strongmum_) on May 28, 2017 at 11:49am PDT The general gist of the caption was that, while I don’t agree on everything… read full entry →

The essure sterilisation procedure, one year on

In Personal

I say one year on… it’s actually 15 months on, but it’s taken me so long to finish writing this post (as with all posts) that my original draft and actual life timeline are way out of sync. Anyway, so: the essure procedure. The last… read full entry →

Detox teas, crash diets and the gallbladder

In Fitness, Personal

I recently supported a short instagram campaign by the UK Fitness Bloggers highlighting the dangers of so called ‘detox teas’ and their call to use “teas for biccies, not weight loss”. Here I am post-run and covered in sweat, enjoying my ‘biccie’ (admittedly I had… read full entry →

Anniversaries, Races and …. this is a terrible title

In Fitness, Parenting, Personal

What a month. WHAT A MONTH. Is it just me, or is May easily the busiest month of the year? (It probably is just me.) The end of April (that’s basically May, right?) saw this blog – well, domain – reach 15. FIFTEEN years of… read full entry →